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Create a Mom Sanity Plan

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I love being a mom.  I love the laughter, the snuggles, and guiding my children on this journey through life.  It was a journey I prayed for and I waited for many years to hold a baby of my own. {You can read our miracle adoption story here}. Motherhood is one of life’s greatest blessings!

As much as I cherish the opportunity to be a parent, I’m going to be completely honest and say there are moments when I am overwhelmed and stressed by the daunting task of child rearing and finding balance in the chaos.

Are you longing for balance as a mom and busy woman? Grab this free printable and take practical steps to becoming a woman of balance and wisdom!

 

In April of 2013, this stress culminated and I reached a breaking point. I realized I had lost myself in my role as a mother and I had no idea who I was outside of my children.

Inside I felt encroached by mom guilt, wondering how I could even think of or focus on myself when the biggest blessing in my life was my children. I loved my kids and wanted to be the best mom I could be, but I could no longer deny I was burnt out, weary to the core, and in need of change.

I started praying that God would show me how to not just survive, but to thrive as a mom.

As always, God was faithful to lead me to a plan to take back my identity while being the best mom I could be.

He was gracious to open my eyes and remove the mom guilt. Eventually I created a “Mom Sanity Plan” to help me live my life resting in His joy and peace.

Below are the simple questions I used to create my plan and this helped me move towards change. An honest evaluation is sometimes exactly what the heart needs to grow and change!

Now it’s your turn for self evaluation.  Are you ready? Print out the free printable below to work through these areas of your life.

Mom Sanity Plan Faith Along the Way

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Identify the stressors

What areas in your life trigger stress and feelings of being overwhelmed?  Are there situations, roles, responsibilities, people even, that trigger your stress?  Be completely honest with yourself and take a moment to jot down what gets under your skin on the free printable.

My stressors included: a cluttered house, being overweight, whining children, not enough rest, and no ministry outside of my family.

Identify what you love to do and what brings you joy

What would you like to do with free time?  What makes you happy and feel like you?  Is there a hobby or an interest you’ve missed doing since becoming a mom? Finish the following statement, “I would get really excited if…”

My loves includes: sharing my heart in a ministry, reading, spending time with family and friends, studying God’s Word, an occasional DIY project, and of course, writing.

How to create a Mom Sanity Plan and find balance in the chaos of life! Free printable, too!

Identify what keeps you balanced

What keeps you feeling sane and life flowing well?  Is there something you can do to make yourself less stressed?  Are there ways you can stop those feelings of angst when they creep up?

My balanced life includes: keeping up with the clutter but not being a perfectionist about it, getting enough rest, eating healthy, exercising, studying God’s Word and writing about His promises.

Embrace change so you can thrive

What changes do you need to make to move towards better balance?  What can you change to minimize the stressors and restore balance?  Do you need to shift priorities or make adjustments to your routine?  Are there daily actions you can implement to eliminate the situations that bring you stress?

My changes: start exercising and eating healthy, keep the clutter at bay, pray that God would lead me to a ministry, have time in God’s Word every day, make time to do the things I love.

Take action

Now that you’ve answered these important questions, it’s time to take action and make a plan to implement changes according to your personal needs. Focus on gradual change that will lead to a lifetime of healthy habits and mom sanity.

Pick one or two areas of change you want to see, and start small, giving yourself loads of grace when you stumble and fall.

Each day, commit to small steps that will implement change gradually over time.

Each day get up, spend time in God’s Word, pray and then tackle your most difficult challenge first. It feels amazing to cross those difficult tasks off our list!

For example, when I started losing weight, I would first focus on moving and some sort of exercise each day and eating healthier meals. Gradually, I increased my time spent exercising and even joined a gym. I wasn’t perfect and I fell often, but God gave me the strength and the self-control I needed to keep pressing on towards permanent change.

Besides small steps to change, plan moments for you!  And please don’t feel guilty about it for one minute!  We are all better moms and a better wives when we do something we enjoy. When we feel fulfilled, it will overflow into the lives of our family!

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Change is a process and there is joy in the journey.  Resolve to love yourself along the way and to pray that God will give you self-control as you press-on towards progress.  Remember, change is not about perfection, but about embracing who you really are and striving to be the person God created you to be!

What areas of your life do you need to pray for change?  I’d love for you to create a mom sanity plan and to stop by to share your experience and your plan for growth and balance!  I’m praying for you!

About Sarah Ann

Sarah Ann is a perfectly imperfect wife and mother, and is thankful for the saving grace of the Lord. When she’s not busy folding yet another load of laundry or comforting a crying child, she enjoys studying God’s Word, writing, and spending time with authentic friends. She's passionate about equipping women to live with intentional faith, family, home, and habits at Proverbs31Mentor.com. Join her for biblical encouragement and practical lifestyle tips to help you live on mission for the glory of God.

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48 Comments

  1. Thank you for sharing these! I’m a big culprit of mom guilt and losing myself, so I try to do something for myself everyday (even if it’s just for a few minutes at a time, or a continuous hour or so). This flow chart is very helpful and I feel as though it’ll keep my focus on gaining some sanity. Thank you again!
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    1. I love the idea of doing something for yourself everyday! I need to add that in to my plan! Thanks so much for stopping by!

  2. I love this post. I love this plan. I am so making one up because recently I did slip and fall backwards. I did implement somethings to get me back on track! I can’t wait for next weeks post!

  3. This sounds very similar to my own journey. I felt like I lost myself somewhere after my second child. I still say to this day it was praying and writing, which maybe was the answer to my prayer, that lead me back to myself. I love this printable by the way. What a great visual action plan for taking back control of your life.
    Angela recently posted…The Sex After Kids ClubMy Profile

    1. I think it’s so easy to lose yourself and moms need to realize, they don’t have to settle for a lost self! Good for you!

  4. This is a great idea and plan. We all have our moments when we are about to lose it, but having a plan makes everything better!
    Robin recently posted…Alternatives to SpankingMy Profile

    1. I totally agree! If I know in my head the ways I’ve already put in place to stay sane, then hopefully I will remember that in those moments of craziness. 🙂

    1. May it help you create a Mom Sanity Plan that will bless your life! Best wishes!

  5. You knew I needed this today, right? I was telling my husband last night that I’m tired of just trying to survive each day. I want to thrive! I am so overwhelmed and busy and I need to sit down and hash out a plan. And lo and behold, here’s your post. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your journey and tips!
    Erin recently posted…To my children: I hope you can forgive meMy Profile

    1. I totally understand, Erin! I love the world of blogging but it can be a busy road and there are often not enough hours in the day. Many blessings to on your journey to find balance!

    1. This is a great tool for the visual oriented mom like me! Glad it could help in some way!

  6. This is great! thanks for sharing, I hope to incorporate this in a bible study on the Proverbs 31 women. God bless

    1. Thanks for including me in your study! Many blessings to you on your own mom journey!

    1. It’s amazing how quickly as moms we feel depleted. This chart really has helped me promote balance and sanity.

    1. Good for you! I revisit mine often and tweak it when necessary to try to promote balance!

  7. We are so hard on ourselves as moms. I remember feeling overwhelmed as a young mother of three children all under the age of 5. Now, they are 17, 20, and 22 but I still find myself feeling guilty. I should have done this differently or changed the way I did that. The enemy wants us to feel overwhelmed, guilty, and inadequate at every stage of motherhood. Thank you for this post. I’ll share it on my social media networks because I know it will be helpful and encouraging to so many mamas out there. Have a great week!
    Tina Shone Truelove recently posted…Organizing the Bathroom (Organizing the Home for Homeschooling Your Kids)My Profile

    1. Thank you for sharing, Tina! It’s amazing how guilty we can feel and I am trying hard to cling to God’s promises of grace and forgiveness as I parent. It’s a daily battle!

    1. Oh I think so too! It’s amazing how quickly we realize things spin out of control!

    1. Ha! I love sanity too and hope this helps you on your journey to finding some!

    1. Absolutely! It’s such a help to be able to visualize something, at least it is for me. I’m glad you found it beneficial!

  8. Oh my goodness. I can’t tell you how encouraging this is. I’m sharing it on my FB page. Especially the questions you encourage us to ask ourselves to find stressors. If moms filled out that printable on a regular basis, I bet we would all be more sane. Thank you!

    1. Thank you so much for sharing, Marie! I need to revisit this and tweak mine a bit, too!

  9. This is a very encouraging post! No matter how blessed and happy we are with what God has given us, we can get overwhelmed at times. It’s very stressful to raise children.

    The image about praying for change should be a printable 8 x 10. It’s beautiful and would be great to display!
    Brandi Clevinger recently posted…Fibro Friday – 27My Profile

    1. Great idea, Brandi! I’ll have to do that! It’s a blessing to hear that other moms can be overwhelmed, too!

    1. Thanks, Mary! It just might have started on a scratch piece of paper crying out to God….

    1. Thanks, Kristen! I’ll be sure to do that soon! Thanks for the tips!

  10. Excellent advice! My 2 girls are both grown, but this is excellent for those still in the trenches.

    1. Oh yes, motherhood certainly can feel like we’re in the trenches for sure. 🙂

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