What Wives Wished Their Husbands Knew
It was the end of a long day.
Through toddler tantrums, potty training, and a bowl full of dinner thrown on the floor, and Hubs and I both had tempers that were shorter than usual.
We fumbled through bath time with feelings of irritability brewing, and had just managed to wrestle a streaking Bubs to the ground for pajamas before the tension finally came to a head.
I was tired to the core and not looking to argue, but before too long, words of frustration flowed freely from both of us.
After a few minutes of rapid fire with stinging words, we each retreated to a separate room to sulk in private and nurse our wounds.
Out came the confetti and the balloons as I threw a pity party for myself, wallowing in my thoughts over our heated argument as silent tears slipped down my face.
My female heart wondered how we were still clueless to the needs of the other person.
How, after years of marriage and countless trials, did we still manage to miss the mark on how to minister to each other’s hearts?
Yet we’re not alone.
In homes across the world, relationships like ours battle for common ground and understanding.
Couples often wonder how to meet the needs of a spouse so different from themselves.
Friends, it’s time to demystify what the other sex is thinking.
It’s time to learn the needs of our other half so we can meet them to the best of our ability.
I find that regardless of the situation, women are the same at the core and the cry of our hearts are similar in nature.
What women want is really simple, and I promise you, guys, we are NOT as complex as the world says!
What wives wished their husbands knew…
We long to be seen and heard
Men, we want you to really see us for who we are. We need you to see our hearts, know us for who we are, and love us anyways.
You see us at our worst and most vulnerable, yet our woman hearts yearn for understanding and for you love us no matter how often we mess up.
We want you to see our hearts and know what makes us tick.
After several years of marriage, guys, your wife should no longer be a mystery!
We long to be appreciated and respected
Women work hard and our dedication to our families can be glossed over easily.
Men, we want to be respected and appreciated for the tireless way we work for our families and all that we do.
It doesn’t mean the appreciation has to be fancy or even elaborate, but just a small word of thanks after dinner or an “I recognize how hard you work” at a random time lets us know our hard work does not go unnoticed.
We long to matter and want to be needed
Husbands, when’s the last time you showed your wife she matters to you?
I’m not talking Nicholas Sparks flowers and candles, although that would be nice sometimes, but we as women need to know that we are on your radar, not as a responsibility, but as a choice.
We need to know that our thoughts, our needs, our love, our life, matters to you, not out of obligation, but because you still only have eyes for us.
Out of all of the women in the world, we need to know would still choose us again.
We want you to be present in our lives
Sometimes in our house Hubs and I can be like two ships passing in the night.
Sometimes because of the busyness of life, we can be more like roommates.
But that’s not what the woman heart desires.
Guys, us women want you to play an active part in our lives, and not just offer a friendly hello in passing.
We long to talk about life, even though it’s not your first instinct, men, and to share our hearts with you.
Those moments you retreat from us, or spend time on your phone disengaged, we feel disrespected, and that you wish you were anywhere but here with us.
We want you to lead us
Yes, we want you to lead.
While we are in the age of the modern woman, we still want and are looking towards you to lead our family.
We need you to dig into God’s Word, be a man of His character and hit your knees for our family.
God has commanded you to lead the family, and while sometimes it’s hard for us to sit back and let you take that responsibility, we want and need your leadership!
We are ready to support you in your leadership role, and are thrilled when we see you rise to the potential God gave you!
Men, there you have it.
This is what your wife wants and needs from you.
Although no two ladies are the same, there’s a good chance at least one of these is on her list of needs.
Talk to her, pray about how you can meet her needs, and allow God to move in your family.
And ladies, you’re not off the hook!
Next week we’ll learn about what your husband wished you knew. {I’m slightly afraid….!}
