To the Unsatisfied Wife,
Valentine’s Day is a not so distant memory, as you browsed social media, finding picture after picture of grand gestures of love.
Roses, chocolates, date nights, all representative of couples in a love so deep, they had to proclaim it to the world.
Meanwhile, your day consisted more of average moments than of romance and candles. You ended the day discouraged and feeling unwanted.
While I don’t have a glimpse into your home or know the in and outs of your marriage, I do know you’re not alone.
The way you crave romance and attention from your husband is really a cry to be filled by God.
No matter how much your husband pursues you, he wasn’t made to satisfy the depths of your soul.
God designed and molded the woman heart. He made her tender and to crave love and intimacy. The Lord also showered women with the ability to nurture, to love passionately, to long for a grand love story, and to have a heart that’s completed by love.
Yet when sin entered the world, God allowed that precious woman heart to chase after her husband. However, God knew her tender heart could not be filled or satiated by man’s love alone. The Father knew that woman would desire her husband in a way that an earthly man would never satisfy. For this reason, her fairy-tale romance would go unrequited until the day she became the Bride of Christ.
“Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Genesis 3:16
So God’s not surprised in this modern age, where true love is passionate and romantic, that you feel neglected and forgotten by your husband.
He sees the frustration, the unshod tears brimming in your eyes, and invites you into a relationship that will never leave you hungry for love.
Ultimately, God’s love is not fickle, and will never forsake you.
His love will always passionately pursue you, and will satisfy even your deepest desires.
The Lord delights in you, and doesn’t see your flaws.
He knows your heart and your hurts, and is always ready to listen.
The Father’s love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs, with a list of your annoying habits and sins you’ve committed.
His perfect, unending love, made the grandest gesture of all, a death that sealed your eternity the day you accepted His proposal of true love.
It’s the ultimate love; one where your longing heart finds true hope, true peace, and most of all, true satisfaction.
And He hasn’t left you here on earth without Him.
He’s coming back to whisk you, His Bride, away into the glorious eternity He’s prepared for you.
Now that’s the greatest love story ever told!
When you feel as though your husband is not meeting the needs of your heart and your spirit craves more, remember that he was never meant to satisfy you.
Your husband was never made to complete you or be the greatest love you’ve ever known. He was never designed to perfectly satisfy your passionate heart or be your grand prize.
No matter how much you feel disappointed, long for romance and to be pursued, remember that he’s human like you. He’s also full of flaws and issues of his own, just like you.
So go easy on the man who has your heart here on Earth.
Offer grace in his imperfection and the areas he falls short. Go out of your way for him, even in moments he doesn’t deserve it. Guard your heart and mind, knowing that bitterness can rot even the strongest of marriages.
Think before you speak and watch your tongue. Be alert and fully aware that nagging causes erosion and dissension in the home.
And for the wife who’s not just longing to ride off into the sunset, but for shelter from abuse, seek safety, help and counseling, believing that God’s perfect love can restore your heart.
You are not forgotten by Him!
Ladies, while you wait for your Bridegroom, don’t focus on how you deserve more in this temporary life, but have peace knowing one day your heart will be fully complete as you enter into the presence of the One True God.