10 Prayers for Your Adoption Journey

The word adoption makes me smile every time. It makes me want to settle into a deep conversation and share my heart over a cup of coffee. I love encouraging families to open their mind and heart to the possibility of an adopted child!

If we were sitting in a dimly lit Starbucks together, first I’d answer your FAQ About Private Adoption and then I’d share How You Know You’re Ready to Adopt. Then, I’d share these adoption prayers to help you prepare your heart while you wait.

As we parted ways, I’d probably be crying, remembering my own road to adoption, but would scribble down a list of my favorite scriptures and prayers for the days ahead.

Wherever you are on your journey, whether waiting for the paperwork to be complete or waiting for your baby to enter this world, hit your knees and pray these scriptures back to the Lord, allowing him to work on your behalf.

Bathe your adoption in these simple, but heart-changing prayers.

 Peace

Adoption can be a tumultuous journey and anxiety can creep in and smother the joy without notice.  Thankfully, we serve a God who is faithful to provide serenity and rest in moments of fear and stress.  Pray that God will banish fear from your heart, and fill you with his peaceful presence, allowing you to get much needed rest.  After all, if you are going to have a baby, you will need to be well rested!

“The Lord gives strength to his people, the Lord blesses his people with peace.” Psalm 29:11

Wisdom

Decisions, decisions, decisions.  On our adoption journey, I felt all we did was make huge decisions that would have a significant impact on our lives.  I was on my knees daily asking for wisdom and prayed that God would provide us with the ability to be wise without getting our emotions entangled.  It’s hard to be rational when you are so desperate for a baby!

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:5

Strength and Endurance

The road to your adopted child may be quick and painless, but for many, it’s a journey that is long and exhausting. {Our 2nd adoption was an uphill battle which you can read about here.} Pray that God will graciously supply you strength and the ability to keep going in moments of overwhelming emotions. He promises to never leave your side and will guide you down the path of the unknown.

“Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always.” 1 Chronicles 16:11

 Courage

The adoption journey requires courage from the Lord and faith to trust that he is by your side every step of the way.  Nothing takes him by surprise or catches him off guard.  Be strong in him, keeping your eyes on him as you take leaps of faith in ways you’ve never imagined.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6

 God’s Will

To me, this was the hardest prayer to utter while waiting for our children.  While there was a verbal agreement that our children would be placed with us upon birth, I had no control or say in the situation.  All I could do was sit back, wait and pray.  As much as I longed for a child, I also longed to be in the center of God’s will.  I trusted that the Creator of the Universe knew me to deepest depths of my soul and that his plan would be best for our lives.  Each day, I released the dream of adoption back to the Lord.

If you’re clinging tightly to the dream of adoption, surrender it and lay it at the feet of Jesus.  Allow him to work in ways beyond your imagination. Let him guide you, no matter the bumps along the way and issues you may face.  Trust that God has a plan for your life and loves you more than you can fathom.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is- his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2

For the birth parents

I can’t imagine placing a child up for adoption, but know it requires a large amount of love for the child.  In our situation, the birth parents were unable to care for our children, and knew that they could not provide a safe, reliable environment to raise one child, let alone two. Together they decided to place the child(ren) up for adoption.  But the decision was not easy and it certainly was not because they did not love these children.  I prayed that God would show them that with his help, they could demonstrate the ultimate act of love by placing the child(ren) up for adoption.

“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” I Corinthians 13: 6-8

Protection of your heart

Guarding your heart is crucial during this season of your life.  When the dream of adoption is written on your heart, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the daydreams and be overwhelmed with excitement.  But friend, slow down {I mean this with love!}. Allow God to capture your heart and let him keep it safe for you from drama, frustration, anxiety, and a long journey.  Draw your strength and fulfillment from him alone, and he will protect your already fragile heart from being broken.

“But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy.  Spread your protection over them that those who love your name may rejoice in you.” Psalm 5:11

For the Child

Pray a hedge of protection around your baby; that God would allow him/her to be healthy, and grow despite any circumstances.  Pray that your baby receives the nutrients he/she needs for all body parts and organs to form and fuse together correctly.  Trust that God is knitting this precious life together and he created baby in his image.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made: your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139: 13-14

Joy

The journey is what you make of it.  It can be a beautiful time of preparation, hope, and joy.  Even it’s filled with anxiety and fear, God longs to be your delight. Let him fill you with the one true joy that comes only from him, as you let him prepare your heart for the biggest blessing ever.  Trust that he will replace the anguish and longing for a child, with joy and laughter as you are united with your forever child.

“He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.” Job 8:21

Thanksgiving

Be thankful for every step of the journey.  Write down the events and hide these precious moments in your heart.  You will want to remember these details to share with your child when they are older.  Most importantly, thank God for hearing your plea for a child, and bestowing on you the great privilege of loving and shepherding a baby through life.

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise, give thanks to him and praise his name.” Psalm 100:4

Are you in the midst of the adoption process? How can I pray for you?

Have you adopted?  What were your specific prayers on your journey?