To the Failed Homemaker,
I know the dirty little secret that you hide from the outside world.
You think people would be shocked to peek into your messy life. And I also know that your inner monologue goes something like this:
“Look at this clutter! There is stuff everywhere and it’s taking over our lives”.
“Do we have any matching socks? They are somewhere buried under piles of clothes.”
“This shower looks like something out of a horror movie! It’s beyond nasty and covered with mildew.”
“What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I keep my home as neat and organized as others? Why is this so hard for me?”
Chances are, as you’ve battled your inner neat freak, you’ve also felt…
defeated and unable to conquer the clutter for good.
stressed because of the mess and that you have failed your family in some way.
envious as you visit the homes of friends who seem to have a natural gift for homemaking.
Regardless of your feelings of failure, your level of organization and neatness doesn’t define who you are. Your worth as woman isn’t tied into how Pinterest-worthy your home is or how many times a week you scrub your bathroom floor.
God has gifted you with your own set of talents and your own unique skill set to be used for His Kingdom and glory. You have a role in His plan that only you can fill, even if your homemaking skills are lacking.
Don’t let your weak areas, even homemaking, define your purpose or paralyze you with fear to not try. Don’t miss the calling God has placed on your heart just because you struggle to keep your home neat.
And when you feel like a failed homemaker..
Remember, the Father has gifted you with the self-control and discipline you need to make changes and to create permanent new habits. The best part is, God is with you every step of your journey as you bravely try to conquer the mess with His strength.
Pray for help in your feelings of failure and lay your anxiety and feelings of shame at His feet, trusting that He can restore this area of your life. Let go of past mistakes and of times where you have let your home get the best of you.
Give yourself grace for your homemaking shortcomings of the past, and move on. You are NOT a slave to clutter and mess!
And friend, can I let you in on a little secret? I’m a “failed” homemaker, too. I grew up surrounded my super neat mother and grandmother, yet somewhere along the way I didn’t inherit the “neat gene”.
I watched them effortlessly keep their homes sparkling clean and bless their family with perfectly folded laundry. Meanwhile I struggle to put away laundry and to find socks that match.
But there is hope…
God’s Word reminds us that our true identity and self-worth comes from Him alone. Your identify is not in folded piles of clothes or perfectly organized pantries and closets.
YOU are God’s child, His beloved. He wants YOU to find freedom in your identity in Him alone.
According to God, your name is not failure, messy, scattered, and cluttered.
When you have a relationship with Him, your name is holy, pure, and spotless, thanks to His amazing grace. That grace perfectly covers all areas where we have done less than our best, including the times we have “failed” as a homemaker.
Together, let us lay us down our shortcomings at the feet of Jesus. May we trust Him for the grace to begin tackling our cluttered homes and hearts again.