Surviving a Mommy Meltdown & Letting Go of Guilt
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A new day is breaking but the sun has not yet graced the sky.
Bubs has been in time-out twice already for throwing toys, one which narrowly missed his sister’s head.
Joy is on the floor having the mother of all meltdowns, desiring to rifle through every kitchen drawer and play in the trash.
Instead of reflecting the character of the Proverbs 31 woman I long to be, I snap. I yell or in my case, ROAR, like a lion and unleash pent up mommy anger on my mischievous babies.
Then, I do the mature thing; I sit in the floor and cry and wonder how motherhood has gotten the best of me.
Mommy anger has won again.
But it doesn’t have to be this way, moms. We CAN learn, even as a frazzled and stressed out mom, to manage our emotions and guard our hearts (and our children’s) with these simple steps.
Step away from the situation if possible
My kids are small, so fleeing the scene of the crime isn’t an option, no matter how tempting that may be. Taking a minute (ok, sometimes 5!) to catch my breath and pray helps me to face their darling faces again.
If you can’t leave the room and risk the kids getting into more trouble, simply turn away, take a deep breath and recite your favorite verse. I often claim, ” …the joy of the Lord is your strength,” Nehemiah 8:11.
Focus on the truth not the lies.
Satan will use the lies we tell ourselves as weapons against us. The negative labels we give ourselves are NOT Truth.
We are NOT defined by how we acted, no matter how poorly, in the moment.
Instead, identify God’s Truth in who you are: forgiven, cherished and accepted. Do NOT give Satan the victory by claiming his lies as truth!
Is there anything practical you can do to turn your day around?
If I take an honest look at the situation, I may see that there is something I can do to change the chaos around me.
Maybe I need to stop and play with my kids if they are desperate for my attention.
Maybe (gulp) I need to change my my attitude. Sometimes, the only thing I can change about a situation is me.
I am the only one I have control over.
As hard as it is change my ugliness in the midst of a mama roar, with God’s help and the new course, 7- Days to a Less Angry Mom, it is possible learn to practice self-control.
Finally, there’s a practical tool for moms to get to the root of anger issues and overcome it once and for all. (Seriously, I CAN. NOT. WAIT. to start this!)
This video course is what every busy and worn-out mom needs to help her keep emotions in check and to manage moments of stress with grace and poise.
You’ll receive godly instruction about conquering mom anger for good in the form of:
—7 video classes (10-18 minutes each).
—7 homework packets (over 50 pages of material to help you work through your own emotions and home situation).
—Access to a private Facebook page for encouragement and accountability (where you can openly and honestly share your mom frustrations and joys).
Plus, taking steps to correct your heart on this issue will free both you and your family from the bond of mommy anger once and for all. I KNOW you want to conquer these demons, too, friend.
This course is a must-have for all women who’ve ever wondered if freedom from mommy anger is possible.
Ask for your kid’s forgiveness and forgive yourself
As a Christian mom, I strive to be an example of Jesus, but when I fail, I need to be the ultimate example of humility.
I need to humble myself, get down on their level and ask for forgiveness for behavior that in no way resembled Jesus.
One of the most difficult parts of a mommy meltdown is the guilt and shame that comes with lashing out at my kids.
When I confess my sin (and yes, it IS sin!) to the Lord, He is quick to forgive and casts it as far as the east is from the west, even when I struggle to forgive myself.
Don’t let pride stand in the way of getting help for your mommy anger. Join the group of women pledging to work on our mommy hearts in 7 Days to a Less Angry Mom and keep pointing those little hands and feet to Jesus with a renewed and self-controlled spirit. It IS possible!
