17 Ways to Make Time for Your Marriage

From newborns to toddlers to preschool to elementary school to the tween years and teenagers and college students…. it’s tough stuff (or so I hear  ).   Often times the everyday demands of feeding, bathing, clothing, driving, shuffling, disciplining, teaching….. etc. our children can lead to having very little mental or physical energy left for our spouse.

Additionally, the strain of work stress, travel, office politics, finances, caring for family members and kids and much more can really drain BOTH spouses.  How in the world is marriage to be our #2 relationship priority (after God of course)?

It’s HARD to put that much effort into your marriage.  We want things to just be lovey and happy and perfect and for our husbands to read our minds and know our needs.  It’s just not the way it works.  It’s not realistic and when we fall into these patterns of expectation, the aftermath isn’t pretty.

So… how can we make the quality time happen when QUANTITY time is just soooo hard to come by?

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Some ideas to help you get started:

Make time. I don’t have TIME is the number one excuse for most things and from most people.  Our time is limited so priorities become even more important.  Don’t let your marriage slip on the list. It can be ANY time. It might seem tedious, but scheduling quality time together (even in 10 minute increments) is crucial.

Have lunch together. Meet during the day for a meal and conversation. This doesn’t have too expensive or unhealthy. Take your sack lunch to a nearby park instead of heading to a restaurant.

Swap the Kids. If funds for a babysitter just aren’t there, then twice per month swap kids with another couple so you can have a night out (or in) ALONE!  This need not be expensive or fancy.  Pack a picnic or do one of your favorite activities from when you were dating.

Take a walk together. Leisure walking plus conversation is a great way to bond. Men typically are more willing to talk while doing something and walking is a perfect solution.  Great way to unwind and catch up after a busy day at work.

Get up and go to bed at the same time. Try to get on the same sleeping schedule. Children make this difficult.  Beginning and ending the day together is special.  Even if it can’t happen all the time it’s a great goal.

Set aside time for daily conversation/discussion. When and where is not important- the time itself IS.  Use a devotion book or a book of questions to help cut the small talk.

Play. Cards, board games, question games.  Whatever.  Laugh.  Have Fun.

Spend Time Learning About his Hobbies. Golf, football, fishing, video games, yard work, camping.  Be interested.  He’ll love it!

17 Ways to Make Time For Your Marriage

Go to bed early once per week…… no more explanation needed.

Compliment Your Husband. Catch him doing something really well.  Be specific.  “You handled that situation with a lot of humility.  I’m proud to be your wife.”.  Men love to hear and feel respect!  It’s the married equivalent of flirting and it helps him remember that he’s you’re #1.

Text During the Day.  Tell him you’re thinking about him or wish him luck on a big work project.  Text him a cute picture of you and your kids.

Read and memorize Scripture together. There may be no better way to connect than through God’s Word.

Have a candlelight dinner. Wait until the kids go to bed and get out the table cloths, “nice” dishes, and candles.

Hold hands often. When kids hang on us all day we sometimes don’t want to be touched.  Do it anyway.

Pray together. Pray for your marriage. Pray for one another. Pray for you children. Also, be sure to thank God every day for the blessing of your husband.

Take The Strong Family Project Challenge and commit to growing your family bond during the next 65 days!  Details about the challenge can be found here and you’ll love the ideas to intentionally strengthen your marriage!

Grab your free Strong Family Project Pack here to unite your family with intentional activities and conversations.

This pack includes date night activity cards and love notes (plus 5 other printables!) to help you have a stronger marriage!

How do you intentionally connect with your spouse?


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  1. This really spoke to me today. Thank you!

    1. Sarah Ann says:

      Thanks, Victoria! Many blessings to you and your marriage!

  2. We have coffee dates. We are trying to pray together more, but it is still awkward. We have, however, seen amazing things happen when pray together, so we are encouraged to keep trying. And we flirt by text.. That is very fun!! ❤❤😘

  3. Sarah Ann says:

    What a fabulous idea, Abi! It’s always nice to have a friend to trade babysitting services with to keep the cost of a sitter low. LOVE this tip!

  4. So important, hey. My husband has been working 6 days a week, so my sister who lives with us said she will have Miss 3 for a couple of hours one morning a week so we can go out to coffee, as his shift doesn’t start till lunch time.

    1. Sarah Ann says:

      Yay for date nights! It’s so hard! My husband used to work nights so I completely understand how hard it is on everyone when the hubby works long hours. Hang in there and pray hard!

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